I know we are going through some tough times right now, especially with the cost of living rise, and we haven’t long been out of the pandemic, with all the uncertainty that created. Let alone the isolation and loss many experienced. It seems we are still recovering from it in many ways.
I’m seeing a lot of people struggling with anxiety, and I feel this is a result of the things I’ve mentioned.
It’s exacerbated by the media, news, social media, and TV programmes. There is a difference between being informed of what is going on in the world and it is reported in a sensational way to gain our attention, for their gain.
I’ve never made a secret of the fact that I don't watch the news, and haven't done for many years now. I may catch headlines and then read more, from a reputable source. But I know the negative effect it has on me were I to get caught up in so much negativity.
Acknowledging the Positives
When we get pulled down into that pit of stress, anxiety, and overwhelm, it’s hard to see any positives, however small. Too often, those overwhelming feelings are directed at those nearest, either family or your partner.
Constant sniping and bickering, finding fault in everything they do, even when they haven't done anything wrong, doesn't help and only adds to the misery you are already feeling, often leading to a distancing in the relationship. And in some cases, a complete breakdown in the relationship.
So, can I ask you to stop for a moment?
Ask yourself if you are guilty of focusing on the negatives and inadvertently directing your negativity at others.
And then, ask yourself -
When was the last time you thanked them or showed them any appreciation?
When was the last time you made plans to do something nice together
When was the last time that you looked at the positives in your life?
You may well find that it lifts your mood, and will hopefully improve your relationship.