What is an affair? Typically, an affair is considered a betrayal of trust. It has the ability to cause significant distress in a relationship. I recently tal...

When I hear the word ‘COMPROMISE’ it sends shivers down my spine. It’s the same sensation as when someone runs their nails down a blackboard. It's so often ...

So many people tell me they hate confrontation, where what they really mean is they hate conflict, because for them ‘Confrontation = Conflict. But it doesn’t...

I love modern technology, but there is a downside to it which I'm noticing more and more, and it can kill romance and passion – STONE DEAD if you misuse it! ...

Do you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again? You keep being attracted to the same guys that treat you badly You find yourself being tal...

I guess we are all aware of how trusting a small child is, and how precious it is that they put their trust in us. As a child ourselves we would have trusted...

I guess we all have things that happen within our family that we don't want to share with outsiders, maybe embarrassing things that happened to us, or those ...

I don’t cope with silences very well, especially if I also sense a bad atmosphere, which I’m very adept at picking up on body language, facial expressions, t...

When I talk to people about this, they often dismiss it, because they cannot understand how the memory of an event can affect them in the here and now. They ...

When a relationship ends it can be so very painful, even if you know it is the right thing to do. It brings up all kinds of emotions many similar to those ex...

I see many clients who find it hard to accept their relationship is toxic and their partner’s behaviour is emotionally abusive. I guess it’s hard to believe ...

Have you ever wondered why you can remember some events and not others? Or why you can recall some things, but you can’t memorise information, such as for an...

You can chop down a tree but because the roots haven't been destroyed, it will send up shoots to regrow. Anyone who is a gardener will know that if you don't...

What is it about the British and our stiff upper lip? Why do we feel we have to control our feelings and ‘just get on with it?’ We tell ourselves if we ignor...

I hear a great number of gurus and coaches advocating positive mindset as the panacea and the way to ‘move your life forward’. They suggest that if you're st...

Do you ever get those situations when a word, a comment or a situation really gets to you, and you can’t figure out why it hit you so badly? A friend or fami...

I often hear personal coaches say that you don’t need to look at past events in your life, all you have to do is move forward positively. In some cases I’m s...

Do you feel as though your life is falling apart? That you just aren’t good enough, that you're a complete failure in all areas of your life compared to othe...

We don’t always recognise when someone is being emotionally abusive in a relationship. It can be so subtle and disguised as ‘caring’. For example, you can fi...

This is a comment I hear so many times when they come to me for help. They tell me they love each other, and their relationship is ok – but there is somethin...