DO YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE ABOUT SPEAKING UP?
Or maybe you are worried about saying the wrong thing.
❌ Stop talking.
❌ Don't show off.
❌ Be quiet.
Were you ever told those as a child? I know I was, and I’m sure I’m not alone. So, what happens is that we feel we need to be quiet, because we want to please our parents, or because we are fearful of the consequences.
I was also fearful of getting it wrong, saying the wrong thing, which was letting my parents down. Embarrassing them!
I can clearly remember one incident even all these years later. I was probably about six years or seven years old. My father introduced me to his boss. I remember feeling terrified and standing in front of him, was like standing in front of a formidable headmaster. I can’t recall what he said, but I do know he asked me questions, which I answered hesitantly.
Afterward, my dad said,_ ‘You said too many errs and umms, and you didn’t speak clearly or properly.’
I was mortified. Not only was I embarrassed, but the overriding feeling was that I had ‘let my dad down'.
I shared this story with my podcast guest Judith Quin - The Voice Woman, who is much more than a voice coach. We explored the effects on us of being shut down, and how those incidents follow us into adulthood.
The Love~Listen~Talk~Repeat podcast with Wendy Capewell
#129 - Judith Quin - Give yourself permission to Speak out, Gain Vocal Confidence and Self-Belief
Judith Quin describes herself as a tree-hugging, crystal-loving, sound-healing hippy-chick AND F1-loving, meat-eating rock chick too!
Judith is also a multi-award-winning vocal confidence & communication specialist, voice-vibration sound & energy practitioner, author, and member of The Association of Transformational Leaders of Europe. Her business is Your Whole Voice
What we talked about
• Why using your voice is so important
• How we have become shut down and felt unable to use our voice
• How our emotions have become trapped in our bodies and often shut us down.
• Our inner child protects us, as a result of an incident or incidents that leave us feeling we have to have permission to speak out.
“When you liberate your voice, you liberate your life because your voice is a reflection of every experience or emotion that you have ever witnessed or imagined.
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