During Lockdown many of the things we would normally spend time doing haven’t been available to us.

  • Eating out

  • Retail therapy

  • Places of entertainment

  • Activity Centres

What I have noticed is that many people have been replacing those with other activities such as –

  • Decorating their homes

  • Garden makeovers

  • Decluttering,

  • New activities

  • Challenges

  • The internet

  • Alcohol

  • Crusades

  • Demonstrations

I'm not denying that It’s a great time to have that space to do those things that we never seem to get around to.

Celebrities fill our screen with interviews, conversations, Instagram lives, podcasts…………..
So, it seems the whole world is filling their time with stuff!
Busy, Busy, Busy.

But, are they just things to fill your time, or are they a way of distracting yourself from connecting with your emotions?

Ask yourself whether it feels too uncomfortable to sit with those fears and worries around COVID19. Does it feel too uncomfortable to think about? Does it mean that you don’t want to face your fears, that you or a loved one could be really badly affected by the virus, and that you or a loved one could die. Uncomfortable thoughts for sure.

I don’t suggest for one moment that you dwell on those feelings, but what I do suggest is that you allow yourself to get in touch with them, and allow yourself to experience them.

Suppressing those emotions can be unhealthy both emotionally and physically. It can lead to numbing not only those you are trying to avoid, but others too, that you really don’t want to suppress.

It’s more helpful to sit with those feelings, and examine them. Are those feelings related to the current situation, or have they been there for a lot longer?

It’s ok to feel, worried, upset, sad, scared, angry, helpless, because they are normal reactions to an abnormal situation, whether that be around the virus, or traumatic events from the past.

Numbing yourself can lead to detaching yourself from others, and that’s a lonely place to be in. You feel isolated,

It may feel safer to attach yourself to things, possessions, or even virtual characters, but you can’t achieve the same level of attachment.We are social beings and we need to connect with each other.

Now is a great time to get to know yourself, and your relationships – your partner, lover, children, parents, children and friends. Rather than numbing yourself and not being available.

What I find ironic are those who are distracting themselves with the very thing we are currently fighting - the virus itself. Some people are reading and watching every item they can find about the virus, in an attempt to discredit and disprove everything and any views or recommendations relating to the virus. They become completely immersed and obsessed by it. Which can only lead to serious stress and anxiety, the feelings they are endeavoring to avoid,

Distracting ourselves is important, but understand why you are doing it and whether it’s a healthy activity. If you would like to talk about anything that's worrying you, I'm more than happy to arrange an informal chat. Email me at info@wendycapewell.co.uk

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