What is contempt in a relationship and how to deal with it.




Conflict is inevitable in any long-term romantic relationship, but there is a way of fighting fair. Personal jibes and digs to rile the other person are definitely not one of them.


Neither is contempt, as it's disregard for your partner’s feelings.

This can show up as -


• Talking down to them

• Mocking them

• Using sarcasm


It also includes nonverbal gestures like -


• Eye rolling

• Huffing and puffing

• Making a point of ignoring the other person, like looking at your phone, reading, etc.


Anyone who has teenagers around them is likely to recognise the non-verbal gestures I'm sure!


Not only is it really unkind behaviour, and bad manners, but it’s also coming from a place of superiority, leaving the other person feeling inferior.


A much kinder way of behaving when you feel upset or angry is to take a softer approach and own your feelings. Share how you are feeling, or how your partner leaves you feeling when they use contemptuous behaviours towards you. Be sure you don't retaliate in kind, as it will only lead to further conflict.


I appreciate that emotions can be running high at times of conflict, but it really doesn't help if you fuel the fire by throwing on logs of attack.

Often it's better to walk away until things have calmed down, and you aren't so emotionally charged.


One thing to remember is that this kind of contemptuous type behaviour isn't just confined to romantic relationships. It can show itself in work-related scenarios, or even with friends and family.


U think sometimes those situations can be more difficult to manage. Nevertheless, they still leave us feeling disrespected if we are on the receiving end. If you challenge the person doing it, they are likely to deny it or say you are being too sensitive. If you do challenge it, I always suggest you use the 'I' statement - owning your feelings. We are all entitled to voice our own opinions - as long as they are respectfully!


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