Is it just a rough patch or have I fallen out of love with my partner?

When you are stressed, and feel under pressure, you can start having doubts around your relationship, maybe because you are more emotionally charged, or because you are spending more time than usual together.

Is it just a rough patch or have I fallen out of love with my partner?

Relationships can be really tricky, and the problem is that we are fed this misinformation of what relationships should look like. We also have this perception around us that every other couple we know is absolutely wonderful and that they are really happy and never hit those bumps in the road.

So, when you hit a difficult patch in your relationship, it’s no wonder whether love has completely gone, or is it just a rough patch. Those are often the times when there are other contributing factors going on. Such as illness, a new baby, loss of a job, death of a loved one, moving house, money problems just to name just a few!

So, how do you know if you have hit a rough patch or if you really have fallen out of love with your partner?

Here are some of the warning signs to look out for -

• You start taking each other for granted, and stop expressing your love for them, cuddles, kissing and sex diminish, or even cease all together.

• You are constantly arguing often over the same thing, and there is no resolution. Happy couples find a way of finding a solution, unhappy couples get stuck in a power struggle.

• You no longer make plans for the future. Whether for next week, next month, or next year, because you can’t see a long-term future together.

• Communication breaks down. When you are in love with someone, you are interested in them and want to learn everything about them. Sadly, as love diminishes so does communication, because you have lost interest in each other. You only speak to each other when you have to, and usually about the routine things in everyday life.

• You start having a wandering eye finding others more interesting, more attractive than your current partner.

• You only notice the negative traits of your partner, only the negative memories of past events you shared.

• You compare your relationship with those around you, feeling jealous of what you perceive their relationship is like.

• You no longer have the same outlooks, aspirations or goals. You begin drifting apart.

• You no longer enjoy each other’s company.

Does it mean our relationship is broken?