Updated: Mar 30, 2019
Do you feel you are equal partners in your relationship? Or you find yourself doing more than your fair share, perhaps making extreme sacrifices to keep your partner happy. Maybe you then find your partner does less and less and you find yourself taking on more and more responsibility for them.
If so, you maybe in a codependent relationship!
Do you try to feel a need to take care of your partner to help you feel better about yourself?
But find that that your partner doesn’t respond, and indeed has a need to rely on your even more?
This may make you feel better about yourself because you feel needed, but its destructive in the long term.
Some signs to be aware of –
· An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others
· A tendency to confuse love and pity, with the tendency to “love” people they can pity and rescue
· A tendency to do more than your share, all of the time
· A tendency to become hurt when people don’t recognize your efforts
· An extreme need for approval and recognition
· A compelling need to control others
· Lack of trust in self and/or others
· Fear of being abandoned or alone
This can happen in all kinds of relationships, both professional and personal
Colleagues who turn to you to help them all the time. Although you may feel good that you are able to be that person, you may find yourself caught in the codependency trap.
If you recognise any of these signs, it’s time to evaluate your relationship. It’s likely to destroy you as you try to ‘rescue' someone who may just deplete your energy.